This article is about how to fight the disease, how to keep from giving in, how to stay in one piece. It is about how to face uncertain physical health and still preserve emotional health. Preserving emotional health in the face of HIV infection is heroic, and people do it all the time, using all sorts of tricks. They call the tricks survival strategies or mind games or mental
tricks—preservation tactics, for lack of a better term. Preservation tactics allow people to function in their daily lives, to endure pain and loss, to choose how to live, and to find real satisfaction and pleasure in the process.
There are a great variety of successful preservation tactics. People use different tactics at different times, depending on their needs. Many of the tactics even seem to contradict one another: sometimes people need to confront what the disease might bring; other times they need to take a break from that. Some of the tactics might work for you; some you might need to modify. You will almost certainly make up new ones for yourself.
Some tactics come from mental health professionals, though these professionals have no firm rules for maintaining emotional wholeness. Most tactics come from the rich imaginations and enormous inner resources of the people affected by HIV infection.
These people are proud of their toughness and resourcefulness, and so they should be. Steven Charles said, “I have to deal with this whether I want to or not. A whole year has gone by since I was diagnosed with the virus. How have I come through it? I think I’ve come through it
admirably.” Neither Steven nor anyone else feels they have been admirable every minute: “It’s hard to do seven days a week,” he says. But on the whole, everyone who uses preservation tactics says that life is better.
Preservation tactics seem to fall into two broad categories. The first is: use your sources of support. The second is: as far as you are able, take control of your life.
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HIV: ON LIVING-TACTICS FOR PRESERVINGThis article is about how to fight the disease, how to keep from giving in, how to stay in one piece. It is about how to face uncertain physical health and still preserve emotional health. Preserving emotional health in the face of HIV infection is heroic, and people do it all the time, using all sorts of tricks. They call the tricks survival strategies or mind games or mental tricks—preservation tactics, for lack of a better term. Preservation tactics allow people to function in their daily lives, to endure pain and loss, to choose how to live, and to find real satisfaction and pleasure in the process. There are a great variety of successful preservation tactics. People use different tactics at different times, depending on their needs. Many of the tactics even seem to contradict one another: sometimes people need to confront what the disease might bring; other times they need to take a break from that. Some of the tactics might work for you; some you might need to modify. You will almost certainly make up new ones for yourself. Some tactics come from mental health professionals, though these professionals have no firm rules for maintaining emotional wholeness. Most tactics come from the rich imaginations and enormous inner resources of the people affected by HIV infection. These people are proud of their toughness and resourcefulness, and so they should be. Steven Charles said, “I have to deal with this whether I want to or not. A whole year has gone by since I was diagnosed with the virus. How have I come through it? I think I’ve come through it admirably.” Neither Steven nor anyone else feels they have been admirable every minute: “It’s hard to do seven days a week,” he says. But on the whole, everyone who uses preservation tactics says that life is better. Preservation tactics seem to fall into two broad categories. The first is: use your sources of support. The second is: as far as you are able, take control of your life.*228\191\2*